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Articles on Feminism's Adverse Effects

"But men are not so smart (myself included) as to be able to discern which woman, when the "system"gets its hands on her/them, might do it to them again. Therefore, guys are gun-shy with respect to all women.

That is one of the horrid consequences of a"family" (sic) court system which is fueled by 1.) seizure and liquidation of men's assets, and 2.) binding men into 20 year slave obligations for children they had no "choice"over, noting that many of them were sperm-trapped into slavery. These men all live their lives in fear now. Fear of prison just for losing their jobs.

It is a Federal crime to fall behind on "child support" by $5,000,and this Federal crime means jail time.The problem is, that the "child support" in the vast majority of cases, is set at a level where the man is all but guaranteed to fall behind at some point. There are reasons for this over-setting by the courts which this blog covers in other sections, but suffice it to say that the real threat of excessive "child support" awards are used by lawyers to draw parents into an expensive self-defense fight. "[Read more....]

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Another interesting aspect of feminism is discussed in the TwoGadflies blog:

"Today I examine one critique of feminism, as I launch a series on critiques of feminism, but I could just as well do a series on “defining what’s wrong with our society and the solution”.

Today’s anti-feminist viewpoint comes from Dennis Prager in his article “Why Are So Many Women Depressed?” on www.townhall.com.

Prager’s main point is that depression in women today is a result of feminism, specifically because feminism led parents and teachers to teach girls that their “emotions and feelings were inherently valuable”, rather than training them to control themselves. “It is impossible to attain any happiness without conquering one’s nature.” [Read more....]

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Feminism is having an adverse impact on a global scale. Here's an example from our northern neighbor of Canada that goes so far as to claim that it is contributing to the end of that country:

"As for nation building feminism has disrupted the sole unit - the family unit - by which a country depends on for population increase. Feminism has introduced confusion into the family unit by confusing gender roles. It compels women to take on the role of the man and forces men to increasingly take on the role of the woman. Because of this women feel that they are less of a woman if they are dispossessed of a career or meaningful work leaving them with less time, and sometimes even less care, for child bearing and rearing. To be blunt, feminism has debased motherhood to notions of slavery and sub human status." [Read more...]

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Articles on the Marriage Strike

The marriage strike is a worldwide phenomena. This recent article from the UK shows us what is happening there:

Article:
Married couples are now in the minority as number of single and divorced people soars:

"Married people have become a minority for the first time, it emerged yesterday.

Most over-16s are now single, divorced or widowed, figures from the Office for National Statistics indicate.

In 2006, the last year for which details are available, there were 236,980 weddings in England and Wales – the lowest number since 1895.

It was also the lowest proportion of marriages compared to the population since counting began in the mid-Victorian era." [Read more....]

Here's another one:

A straight, no-chaser dialogue with Marc Rudov, author of "The Man's No Nonsense Guide To Women: How To Succeed In Romance On Planet Earth."

"Is there a marriage strike? Are men being bombarded with and confused by the mixed signals they receive about the rules of engagement concerning courtship and marriage? And who is confusing men with these mixed signals? Is it the media? Society? Women? And what key pieces of information should we share with our children about the rules of engagement concerning courtship and marriage in connection with their future roles as spouses and parents which will allow them to develop and maintain loving and stable marriages and relationships?" [Read more....]

A Spouse's Guide To Hiding Assets

For those of you whose assets are in jeopardy from the family law industry, from spouses-to-be or ex-spouses, you might want to take a look at this new eBook that was just released.

PRESS RELEASE:

Panama Publishing, Inc. has recently published the Pro Se Self-Help Guidebook: "A Spouse's Guide To Hiding Assets" to their series of books to fill a void in the market that is comprised of people who need to know how to protect their assets from from being taken away by the family law courts.

This guidebook is for anyone who has ever wanted to find out about how assets can be "repositioned," how assets can safely be protected and "cloaked," how you can locate them when someone else has them, and what methods you can employ to find them.

There are essentially five periods when you absolutely need to concern yourself with the planning of your asset protection: before marriage, during marriage, before a divorce, after a divorce, and when you are facing a contempt of court hearing.

Protecting your assets is primarily concerned with finding legal and relatively easy methods to implement that are readily available and cost effective. Surprisingly enough, you don't have to resort to exotic and complicated remedies like going offshore to do so. Your other concern
is being familiar with the basic laws that regulate what you are trying to do and to understanding how the courts view them.

Your goal is to make your assets "bulletproof" from the courts and as invisible as possible in order to keep them safe from outside attacks. You will find explained some entirely legitimate and commonly overlooked ways to protect your assets, some precautions to use, and very possibly, some considerations of which you weren't aware.

Link to book

Panama Publishing's other self-help guidebooks were created specifically for the person who needs to face the family law court on a self-represented basis. With Florida used as an example, each of these guidebooks cover a specific topic such as:

How To Modify Your Alimony Payments
How To Lower Your Alimony Payments: Tips and Techniques
How To Defend Yourself In Contempt Of Court Hearings
How To Appeal In State Court Of Appeals

Even those readers who can afford a lawyer will find these books useful and informative. The guides are designed to help the parties involved in family law cases to learn about the process, procedures and paperwork involved with modifying alimony, contempt of court, and appeals. It can save them money by not having to have their lawyer spend expensive billable hours explaining things to them.

The material presented is given in an easy-to-understand layman's language and simplifies the details to where, in most instances, an individual might undertake their own case on a self-represented basis .

One of the unique facets about these guides is the ongoing and continuing support provided by the publisher's website for each book that, in effect, gives new and updated information to the
book's chapter contents as it arises. This website support insures that the data in the guide books is kept current without having to publish revised editions.

You can read more about these books at the following sites:
www.panama-publishing.com or www.alimonycentral.org

Articles: "Freemale," A New Term

Here's an insightful article below and one that introduces a new word to our lexicon of "Freemale" and it's not referring to the male gender.

Article:
Earlier, I mentioned the marriage strike. And I will now assert-- nay, promulgate! -- as a point of political dogma, that only men can be marriage strikers. The marriage strike is purely a MALE project, and must in no way be conflated with any female culture of marriage avoidance. To do so, would bestow upon women a gravitas, and a crown of thorns, to which they are not entitled.

Women have a lot to gain from marriage, and men have lot to lose -- far more than women do.

Thanks to feminism, a woman can treat the matrimonial parchment like a tabula rasa, and write the script as she deems fitting. And she can tear it up whenever she wants to, and "make out like a bandit" in her divorce settlement, and drag the children along just like all the other loot she manages to haul away.

And thanks to feminism, marriage is for men a peonage contract -- at the very best, it is life under a Sword of Damocles; at the very worst, it is a death trap. A man who marries signs his life away to a potential betrayer, one who can lie about him with the law to back her up, one who can reduce him to beggary and destitution, to living in his car, even to a jail cell. Such is the value of male life under the feminist regime.

What I have just described is what the law permits to happen, and what police, social services, legal professionals and court systems connive and wink at. No, women cannot be marriage strikers or warrantably call themselves such, for they have nothing to strike about. [Read more...]

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The following article: A STRAIGHT, NO-CHASER DIALOGUE WITH MARC RUDOV, AUTHOR OF "THE MAN'S NO NONSENSE GUIDE TO WOMEN: HOW TO SUCCEED IN ROMANCE ON PLANET EARTH discusses the new "rules of engagement" courtship and marriage.

Article:
Is there a marriage strike? Are men being bombarded with and confused by the mixed signals they receive about the rules of engagement concerning courtship and marriage? And who is confusing men with these mixed signals? Is it the media? Society? Women? And what key pieces of information should we share with our children about the rules of engagement concerning courtship and marriage in connection with their future roles as spouses and parents which will allow them to develop and maintain loving and stable marriages and relationships? [Read more....]

Article: The Negatives of Marriage for Men Often Outweigh the Positives

Here's a perceptive article: "Single Men in Never-Neverland" - by Dr. Helen Smith, February 7, 2008

"Why do today's men run from commitment -- indefinitely delaying settling down in a marriage they take seriously, and having kids? Dr. Helen Smith asks whether they are indeed pampered eternal adolescents more interested in exploding toilets and video games than real life.

Yep, it’s just that freewheeling marketplace or an avoidance of deep attachments or whatever that is keeping men from taking marriage seriously, settling down and having kids. But I don’t think that’s the whole story. What Hymowitz misses is that men are on a marriage strike, not necessarily because they are perpetual adolescents or avoiding deep attachments to others but because the reward for being an adult in our society is so low, especially for men.

It’s really simple Psychology 101 (or Economics 101) — make something negative enough and people will avoid it, make it positive, and more people will engage in that particular behavior.

Nowadays, for many men, the negatives of marriage for men often outweigh the positives. Therefore, they engage in it less often. Not because they are bad, not because they are perpetual adolescents, but because they have weighed the pros and cons of marriage in a rational manner and found the institution to be lacking for them. It’s a sensible choice for some and the video games, magazines, and humor websites that Hymowitz disses are a way to fill one’s time with fun activities that don’t tell you that you suck, are an “unfinished person,” emotionally detached or on your way to jail for fake domestic violence charges. People used to treat men better than this." [Read more....]

Marriage Strike Articles

Here are some interesting articles on the Marriage Strike:

Pope Benedict XVI Recognizes Powerful Effect Of Marriage Strike On Catholic Marriages in U.S.? ~by Legal Pub

"Did the Pope just recognize that the Marriage Strike Movement in the U.S. is having an effect on the Catholic Church? Yesterday, Pope Benedict XVI discussed the sex abuse scandal in the Church, pornography, and the "alarming decrease" in Catholic marriages in the United States." Read more about the Marriage Strike

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You think it's bad now?

"Just like the global warming pundits, I feel compelled to paint the picture of what the future will be like “if things don’t change”, as just like them I do not expect anything to change. So imagine a good decade or more down the road, figure that no other major catastrophes to give society the electro shock therapy that it desperately needs.

Marriage of course will be dead in the eyes of any man under thirty." [Read more...]

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Glenn Sacks

A Feminist Disputes the 'Marriage Strike'

"Feminists are part of the problem. Traditional chivalrous males (like most judges) are part of the problem. Attorneys are part of the problem, and the government is part of the problem. And while feminists have certainly caused great harm in family law, they certainly aren't always wrong, either. " [Read more...]

Viral Marketing Is Aiding The Growth Of The Marriage Strike

Below are a couple of articles from anti-feminist blogs. The cumulative effect of all these blogs, articles, and comments is similar to that of sending jokes and such material to your email list of contacts. The recipients in turn, forward them to their list, and so it goes. This is known as Viral Marketing.

If the same trend of the articles is repeated over and over repeatedly to men, they tend to believe them and take heed. As a result, they acquire a caution, nay fear of the entanglements that they face should they get married. Hence, the growth of the Marriage Strike movement.

Here are the articles:

"Another trend, that has already begun and is already being noted by feminists and men alike, is that of the fear women seem to have about ‘dying alone surrounded by cats’. If my observation of women has shown me anything, it’s that they can barely tolerate each other in their relative youth and in old age they all but completely ignore each other in old age. The ones already locked into this trajectory I suspect will make overtures to their screwed up children in the hopes that somebody will be around to notice the dead body." [Read more...]

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"Looking for a wife? Make sure she is under 27. Why, you say? Well...it's where biology meets the marriage strike. You see, a woman's fertility begins to drop off at 27. At 35 it begins to plummet. It is also at 27 that many women wake up from either (1) their partying and incessant one-night stands with bad boys or (2) their "empowering" careers or (3) both, and realize they might want a baby." [Read more...]

Misandry Rears Its Ugly Head In Presidential Campaign

The misandristic myths generated by feminist's influence have even spilled over into the current presidential campaign with Barak Obama's discriminatory speech to mark Father's Day by to singling out and bashing fathers as "Deadbeat Dads", particularly black fathers. Obama said fathers have "have abandoned their responsibilities, acting like boys instead of men."

The article written by Glen Sacks said that "Obama put all blame for family breakdown squarely on men. This is beyond ludicrous. It's doubtful that many dads wake up in the morning and say to themselves, "My child loves me and needs me, my wife/girlfriend loves me and needs me--I'm outta here."

Despite the stereotype of the feckless and irresponsible male, research shows that the vast majority of divorces as well as many break-ups of unmarried couples are initiated by women, not by men. Yes, some mothers have good reasons for these breakups. Yet, as Jonetta Rose Barras, the African-American author of Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl, explains, many black fathers are simply being "kicked to the curb." [Read more...]

Second Wives Affected By Archaic Alimony Laws

The below article indicates the growing awareness of the inherent dangers of getting divorced. Not only are men susceptible to incurring financial suicide, but women, who would be successor wives, are finding that their income can be required to make court-ordered alimony payments to their husband's ex-wife.

Within hours of an op-ed piece appearing in the Boston Globe that condemns Massachusetts' out-of-date and lopsided alimony laws ("The Chilling Effect of the State's Divorce Laws," June 13, 2008), we can see the growing influence that alimony has on parties decisions whether or not to get married. In turn, it is the primary cause that is responsible for the current Marriage Strike that is changing the landscape and structure of the family and institution of marriage in our society.

Undisclosed in these reports is the fact that The Alliance For Freedom From Alimony, Inc. www.alimonyreform.org, which is the national organization for alimony reform in the U.S., has been supporting the efforts of the Reform Massachusetts Alimony which is the Massachusetts chapter branch of the Alliance. The Alliance's legal team has been responsible for assisting them in their legal efforts from its inception though to the appeals court.

Women Cancel Weddings Within Hours of Boston Globe Op-ed Regarding State's Alimony Laws

BOSTON, June 18, 2008 /PRNewswire via COMTEX/ -- Within hours of an op-ed piece appearing in the Boston Globe that condemns Massachusetts' out-of-date and lopsided alimony laws ("The Chilling Effect of the State's Divorce Laws," June 13, 2008), Mass Alimony Reform received a phone call from a woman who had planned to marry a divorced man in September, but after reading the article, decided to cancel her wedding. [Read more...]

Higher Death Rates For Men Yield Lower Government Funding Than For Women

In another area where misdirected concern has been spotlighted is in the government and media where the primary focus and publicity has been on diseases that affect only women. Men have been pushed to the rear as far as government funding for medical research in light of the fact that men have a higher death rate than women.

In his blog, Glenn Sacks on March 17th, 2008 discusses an article from U.S. News & World Report: 'Why Men Are So Good at Dying', and says:
According to the Men's Health Policy Center, for example, men die at higher rates than women for many leading causes of death. That includes, for example, a death rate for men that's 50 percent higher than that of women for cancer; twice that of women for ischemic heart disease, and three times that of women for HIV/AIDS. On average—as it's often pointed out—men live a total of 5.2 years less than women. [Read More...]

Is this the way the government's displays equality for "All" the American people? Could it be said that all people are created equal, but some people are created more equal than others???

New Study: Men on Marriage Strike Because They Fear Divorce

An interesting article was just published by a renown author who writes and campaigns to expose the misandry and gender bias towards men in the courts and the media.

New Study: Men on Marriage Strike Because They Fear Divorce
June 2nd, 2008 by Glenn Sacks

In my co-authored column Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men's Marriage Strike? (Philadelphia Inquirer, (7/5/02) six years ago I postulated that men were on a "Marriage Strike" because of the way they get manhandled in divorce. A new study supports that view. According to Reuters' Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage: study (6/2/08): [Read More….]

The Beginning Of The End

The beginning of the end of the institution of marriage is underway. Misandry and the media have denigrated the role of men in our society to where they apparently exist solely as objects of ridicule and sources for financial support to women.

What Types Of Men Are The Focus Of Feminist Misandry?

They are the same type of men as the pioneers who built this country into the great power it once was and now are labeled as "deadbeat dads."

They are the same type of men who raised generations of families without government intervention and are now charged with domestic violence and abuse.

They are the same type of men who are expected to fight and die for our freedoms and protect our country from the enemy yet are refused the same freedoms they fought for.

They are the same type of men who will face the family courts with less rights than the worst of criminals and will be denied due process of law in their dealings with the court because their "crime" was a civil one.

They are the same type of men who are now being stripped of their children, finances and future by being sacrificed in the name of "equity and justice" on the altar of the family law injustice system for the gain of others.

They are the same type of men who will never find closure for the sole reason that they committed the heinous "crime" of having a marriage go bad and will forever be ensnared in the crushing tentacles of the court.

They are the same type of men who are finding out that marriage is synonymous with "financial suicide" and involuntary servitude "forever."

They are the same type of men who have suffered alienation of their children, evicted from their home, and committed financial suicide by ever getting married.

They are the same type of men who are spreading the message to whomever will listen to them and unite with them in their strike.

They are the same type of men who will never marry again----for they are on a Marriage Strike!

Where Have All The Heroes Gone?

Let me preface this post with the comment that this blog is not about misogyny nor is it meant to imply that all women are bad. It is primarily directed at the small number of women who have poisoned society with the idea that families raised solely by mothers is the ideal arrangement.

From the beginning, it was meant for man and woman to work as a team and raise responsible families to propagate the species. Now, it appears that our society is following a doctrine espoused by the Communists back in the 20’s. Read this article Communism and the Family by Alexandra Kollontai in 1920 and see the parallels to what is happening today in our society. It’s frighteningly accurate when you look around you today. Also take a look at the Communist Manifesto.

In my associations, I have found that some of our staunchest and anti-feminist supporters are the second wives whose present husband is a victim and in an indentured servitude relationship with his ex-wife. They have a first hand view of the devastation that has been wreaked by the feminists and the family law courts who support them and their goals.

One doesn’t have to be anti-man to be pro woman. My congratulations go out to the many women who have fought to keep their husbands and children in a traditional family unit and to raise them with the values we cherish.

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Look around you and ask yourself-----Where have all the heroes gone? Some of my old movie heroes are John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Charles Bronson and other similar actors. These were men who stood up for what was right and didn’t back down from anyone. Their objective was to take out the bad guy and make things right in the world. You never heard them use cuss words even in the heat of battle.

Granted, they were movie actors, yet the way they were portrayed in the movies was as a man’s man. Unlike today where, in the media, most of them are either seen as bumbling idiots incapable of finding their own tush with both hands or perpetrators of violence and abuse upon women and children in their role as “deadbeat dads” whose only objective is to evade their families and obligations so they can nest with some sweetie pie other than their wife.

It seems like the male portion of society consists of these “degenerate” types of individuals, while other larger portion consists of government agencies whose sole purpose is to generate laws and agencies to deal with these societal pariah type individuals. They thus enable an ever-expanding role of government by implementing profit centers to fill government coffers at the expense of some individual who had the misfortune to become ensnared for a lifetime in the tentacles of the family law industry injustice system.

The growth of government typically is a prime example of self-perpetuation in motion. It is truly a hermaphroditic entity.

Well, perhaps I might be exaggerating a bit, the amount of government agencies would have to be less than half because you’d have to factor in the disproportionate amount of government focus and growth in the “let’s protect the American people from terrorists” by providing an incalculable quantity of government agencies and personnel that they will interject between the people they are “protecting” and the terrorists.

But what can you expect from a society that idolizes and dotes on overpaid celebrity misbehaving, excesses, addictions, and other egregious behavior. Between families raised by the mother in a matriarchal family and with the current role models with whom children are presented in the media, what kind of future generation can we expect? Where does the father fit in??

Men weren’t always caricatured in such an unfavorable light as they are now. Feminist individuals and Groups in the 60’s such as the National Organization of Women [NOW], feminist Gloria Steinhem and S.C.U.M [Society for Cutting Up Men] in their Manifesto were responsible for starting the trend. Currently you can see the fruits of their labor everywhere you turn. The devastation left in their wake has forever altered the landscape of our society and portends ominous things for the future of the family.

Feminists started off seeking equality, and ended up attempting to establish a matriarchal society where the male is a non-essential part of the family. They don’t even need men to procreate children….they can go to the nearest sperm bank and make their own.

Are we to imply that there are no more good men who care for their wife and children? Because the implication from feminists and the media is that they are no longer an indispensable part of a happy family and for the time being they are tolerated as a necessary evil to provide support for the feminist after they have destroy the family unit taken the assets and children and left the man out to swing in the wind.

Who will the next generation of heroes be?

Thought For The Day

“The same instinct that has allowed men to dominate our society for all of recorded history allows for selectivity in communication. Men know what information is important to convey and what is just a waste of time. Instead of talking on the phone about nothing, men are out running governments and exploring outer space”. -- Corey McFadden, 18, Bethlehem, PA (from Parade Magazine column "Fresh Voices": Sept. 27, 1998.)

Introduction To This Blog

We are facing an unprecedented social crisis with the breakdown of the family unit in America today due to an ongoing and growing trend called a Marriage Strike. There is no one cause to explain it because there are many interrelated factors responsible for this development. Most of these factors have a ripple-down effect to affect the men who are participating in this strike. Subsequent posts will delineate some of these factors and their ramifications.

The purpose of this blog is to bring together the many factors to explain the cumulative effect known and referred to as the Marriage Strike.

Consider this:

On one hand, the Federal government is spending billions of your tax dollars to promote marriages while on the other hand, the State governments have passed legislation to encourage the dissolution of marriages with no-fault divorces and liberal alimony entitlements.

No-fault divorce laws combined with the liberal financial benefits normally granted to one of the spouses provide a great "incentive" for the breakup of a marriage. Divorces can be had with as little as a declaration of "irreconcilable differences" from one of the spouses. The ease with which this can be accomplished combined with the promise of at least half of the assets, pensions and retirement funds, child support if there are children and a lifetime of alimony welfare support payments are the incentive for a dissatisfied spouse to terminate the marriage with the other spouse picking up the bill. The divorce rate hovering around 50% and the number of unmarried households outnumbering the married households supports this view.

In the wake of these no-fault laws comes the legal profession and divorce industry to feed off the divorces and misery caused by a marriage turned sour and which profits them to the tune of billions of dollars annually. Not only does the legal profession profit, but also there is an incentive for the States to facilitate this progress because they profit from this dissolution process by taking advantage of the grants offered to them in their course of overseeing this misery. In addition, the U.S.A. is spending $46 Billion every year on programs caused due to broken families.

Reflect on the fact that legislatures are composed largely of lawyers who make the laws affecting your marriage and your life. These laws are administered by judges who are all attorneys promoted or elected to that position. Considering the hefty legal fees that they charge and the resulting profits to be made from the adversarial nature of divorces, you can see that the legal profession is a self-perpetuating system overseen by the state’s bar associations and it is to their advantage to encourage all these laws as a matter of job security for themselves.

Ask anyone who has gone through the trauma of a divorce and you will find that not only has a large portion of their finances been devoured by legal fees, but one of the spouses has been placed under a financial hardship for the rest of their lives. Oftentimes being divorced becomes a matter of FINANCIAL SUICIDE for one of the spouses.

We need to stop the legal systems that has grown into a symbiotic "professional" industry which has emerged to "process" divorce, support and custody issues in a complex comparable to the military-industrial one. Read the article “The Hidden Hardship in Family Law” where $8 Billion was paid to family law lawyers in 2001.