Alimony: A lottery
Alimony: A Wedding Scene
The beginning of the end of the institution of marriage is underway in the form of a Marriage Strike. Misandry by the feminists and the media have denigrated the role of men in our society to where they apparently exist solely as objects of ridicule and sources of financial support for women.
Definition: Misandry is the hatred of males as a sex, as opposed to misogyny, the hatred or fear of women.
"Married people have become a minority for the first time, it emerged yesterday.
Most over-16s are now single, divorced or widowed, figures from the Office for National Statistics indicate.
In 2006, the last year for which details are available, there were 236,980 weddings in England and Wales – the lowest number since 1895.
It was also the lowest proportion of marriages compared to the population since counting began in the mid-Victorian era." [Read more....]
Yep, it’s just that freewheeling marketplace or an avoidance of deep attachments or whatever that is keeping men from taking marriage seriously, settling down and having kids. But I don’t think that’s the whole story. What Hymowitz misses is that men are on a marriage strike, not necessarily because they are perpetual adolescents or avoiding deep attachments to others but because the reward for being an adult in our society is so low, especially for men.
It’s really simple Psychology 101 (or Economics 101) — make something negative enough and people will avoid it, make it positive, and more people will engage in that particular behavior.
Nowadays, for many men, the negatives of marriage for men often outweigh the positives. Therefore, they engage in it less often. Not because they are bad, not because they are perpetual adolescents, but because they have weighed the pros and cons of marriage in a rational manner and found the institution to be lacking for them. It’s a sensible choice for some and the video games, magazines, and humor websites that Hymowitz disses are a way to fill one’s time with fun activities that don’t tell you that you suck, are an “unfinished person,” emotionally detached or on your way to jail for fake domestic violence charges. People used to treat men better than this." [Read more....]
In my associations, I have found that some of our staunchest and anti-feminist supporters are the second wives whose present husband is a victim and in an indentured servitude relationship with his ex-wife. They have a first hand view of the devastation that has been wreaked by the feminists and the family law courts who support them and their goals.
One doesn’t have to be anti-man to be pro woman. My congratulations go out to the many women who have fought to keep their husbands and children in a traditional family unit and to raise them with the values we cherish.
Look around you and ask yourself-----Where have all the heroes gone? Some of my old movie heroes are John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Charles Bronson and other similar actors. These were men who stood up for what was right and didn’t back down from anyone. Their objective was to take out the bad guy and make things right in the world. You never heard them use cuss words even in the heat of battle.
Granted, they were movie actors, yet the way they were portrayed in the movies was as a man’s man. Unlike today where, in the media, most of them are either seen as bumbling idiots incapable of finding their own tush with both hands or perpetrators of violence and abuse upon women and children in their role as “deadbeat dads” whose only objective is to evade their families and obligations so they can nest with some sweetie pie other than their wife.
It seems like the male portion of society consists of these “degenerate” types of individuals, while other larger portion consists of government agencies whose sole purpose is to generate laws and agencies to deal with these societal pariah type individuals. They thus enable an ever-expanding role of government by implementing profit centers to fill government coffers at the expense of some individual who had the misfortune to become ensnared for a lifetime in the tentacles of the family law industry injustice system.
The growth of government typically is a prime example of self-perpetuation in motion. It is truly a hermaphroditic entity.
Well, perhaps I might be exaggerating a bit, the amount of government agencies would have to be less than half because you’d have to factor in the disproportionate amount of government focus and growth in the “let’s protect the American people from terrorists” by providing an incalculable quantity of government agencies and personnel that they will interject between the people they are “protecting” and the terrorists.
But what can you expect from a society that idolizes and dotes on overpaid celebrity misbehaving, excesses, addictions, and other egregious behavior. Between families raised by the mother in a matriarchal family and with the current role models with whom children are presented in the media, what kind of future generation can we expect? Where does the father fit in??
Men weren’t always caricatured in such an unfavorable light as they are now. Feminist individuals and Groups in the 60’s such as the National Organization of Women [NOW], feminist Gloria Steinhem and S.C.U.M [Society for Cutting Up Men] in their Manifesto were responsible for starting the trend. Currently you can see the fruits of their labor everywhere you turn. The devastation left in their wake has forever altered the landscape of our society and portends ominous things for the future of the family.
Feminists started off seeking equality, and ended up attempting to establish a matriarchal society where the male is a non-essential part of the family. They don’t even need men to procreate children….they can go to the nearest sperm bank and make their own.
Are we to imply that there are no more good men who care for their wife and children? Because the implication from feminists and the media is that they are no longer an indispensable part of a happy family and for the time being they are tolerated as a necessary evil to provide support for the feminist after they have destroy the family unit taken the assets and children and left the man out to swing in the wind.
Who will the next generation of heroes be?
Thought For The Day
“The same instinct that has allowed men to dominate our society for all of recorded history allows for selectivity in communication. Men know what information is important to convey and what is just a waste of time. Instead of talking on the phone about nothing, men are out running governments and exploring outer space”. -- Corey McFadden, 18, Bethlehem, PA (from Parade Magazine column "Fresh Voices": Sept. 27, 1998.)
The purpose of this blog is to bring together the many factors to explain the cumulative effect known and referred to as the Marriage Strike.
On one hand, the Federal government is spending billions of your tax dollars to promote marriages while on the other hand, the State governments have passed legislation to encourage the dissolution of marriages with no-fault divorces and liberal alimony entitlements.
No-fault divorce laws combined with the liberal financial benefits normally granted to one of the spouses provide a great "incentive" for the breakup of a marriage. Divorces can be had with as little as a declaration of "irreconcilable differences" from one of the spouses. The ease with which this can be accomplished combined with the promise of at least half of the assets, pensions and retirement funds, child support if there are children and a lifetime of alimony welfare support payments are the incentive for a dissatisfied spouse to terminate the marriage with the other spouse picking up the bill. The divorce rate hovering around 50% and the number of unmarried households outnumbering the married households supports this view.
In the wake of these no-fault laws comes the legal profession and divorce industry to feed off the divorces and misery caused by a marriage turned sour and which profits them to the tune of billions of dollars annually. Not only does the legal profession profit, but also there is an incentive for the States to facilitate this progress because they profit from this dissolution process by taking advantage of the grants offered to them in their course of overseeing this misery. In addition, the U.S.A. is spending $46 Billion every year on programs caused due to broken families.
Reflect on the fact that legislatures are composed largely of lawyers who make the laws affecting your marriage and your life. These laws are administered by judges who are all attorneys promoted or elected to that position. Considering the hefty legal fees that they charge and the resulting profits to be made from the adversarial nature of divorces, you can see that the legal profession is a self-perpetuating system overseen by the state’s bar associations and it is to their advantage to encourage all these laws as a matter of job security for themselves.
Ask anyone who has gone through the trauma of a divorce and you will find that not only has a large portion of their finances been devoured by legal fees, but one of the spouses has been placed under a financial hardship for the rest of their lives. Oftentimes being divorced becomes a matter of FINANCIAL SUICIDE for one of the spouses.
We need to stop the legal systems that has grown into a symbiotic "professional" industry which has emerged to "process" divorce, support and custody issues in a complex comparable to the military-industrial one. Read the article “The Hidden Hardship in Family Law” where $8 Billion was paid to family law lawyers in 2001.